I’m not sure the fellas can relate to this as much. But follow along anyway. I know all the ladies out there will know exactly what I’m talking about, because I’ve seen it so many times. Over and over again.
If you have to explain to your man, in extreme detail, everything he is doing that pisses you off, that he does wrong and what he needs to do to fix it and make you happy. And then he magically changes everything you told him to ? That is reacting. And a few months later, he is back to his old ways. If he lasts that long.
That is not change. Definitely not change we can believe in.
This is how I feel about all this social change going on recently. I’m a Chef, I know all about putting Band-Aids on bullet wounds. And even with the new racially appropriate Band-Aids, it’s still not going to make a difference. I’m also an EMT so I know the way to stop bleeding is to apply pressure. Once the bleeding stops, you clean it, apply antiseptic to ward off infection, stitch it up, be careful to not reopen it and let it heal fully before you go testing it.
Change is like good BBQ, slow and low.
We the F%#n' People 